Mr. Milker. Seriously?

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Jul 292011
 

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I’m all for sharing in the raising and caring for your child together with your wife and sharing in the responsibility of feeding the baby and all that, but really?  Seriously? 

This is what their product blurb says on their website:

“"Breast-Feeding Envy" is what Psychology Today says is the most common and least-discussed concern among today’s young parents. Young fathers are quietly suffering the effects of envy over not being able to breast-feed.. it’s happening everywhere, and the fathers are not speaking out… but, maybe they don’t need to. Announcing the latest Great Invention, Mr. Milker….”

“…Using a classic sports bra design, Mr. Milker includes two bladders, stitched into the chest, capable of holding 10 ounces of milk in each. These two bottles are also BPA-free.”

Yeah, I’d have to say this is one product I most definitely will not be endorsing.

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So You’re Gonna Be A Dad (part 1)

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Jul 282011
 

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“You’re going to be a daddy!”

Well congratulations, bub, and welcome to the hardest, most rewarding, and most mind numbingly awe inspiring job you’re ever going to have as the male member of the human species.

I’ve noticed that getting that news from your wife/fiance/girlfriend can lead you to have either one of two reactions.  Either you feel it as the single most world changing event in the history of the universe, or it feels all very abstract.  I have to confess, I was of the latter persuasion.  I knew what it meant, I understood the responsibilities and the implications on an intellectual level, but it didn’t really hit me emotionally until maybe the 2 to 3rd trimester and I started to actually feel the baby in my wife’s belly.  THAT was freaky.  I had visions of Aliens and V going off in my geek brain – there’s a lifeform in my woman’s belly! – while at the same time it no longer became a theoretical little blob on an ultrasound.

2011 must be a banner year of Kieun’s friends and reproduction because quite a lot of my friends and my wife’s friends (aka our friends) are having children.  It occurs to me that I haven’t really gone into the 9 month process leading up the D-Day (that’s D for delivery, pal).  I could write a tome about it, but who’s gonna wanna read that?  So I thought I’d put down some thoughts, observations, and other highly opinionated advice for anyone who may have just recently heard those fateful six words.

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Welcome to the world, Nathan

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Jun 302011
 

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Allow me to officially welcome to the world, my son, Nathaniel Tae-Joon Kim.  He was born six weeks ago, on May 19, at 12:48pm.  It’s been an exciting, harrowing, and EXHAUSTING 6 weeks, and a literal whirlwind of activity and non-sleep.

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May 092011
 

I want to use this opportunity to put in a small plug for a website a good friend of mine has started. His name is Rich Chen and he is a very talented fellow. He’s a great engineer, and very clever artist, and he is particularly talented at what would be called “paper arts.”

In particular, he is really good at making pop up cards. He recently started up a website called creativepopupcards.com to showcase some of his talent and his work.

To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, take a look at this youtube video below. You can see the cards he’s made at this website, or at his Youtube channel.  He provides examples of his amazing creations as well as detailed information, tutorials, and templates on how to make them yourselves.

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HnGQlBokkG0

This type of papercrafting is an excellent way to impress your kids, your wives, heck impress anyone really, if you even want to give someone a card.  It’s also just a good way to spend some time with your kids making an amazing creation that they’ll be proud of.

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May 082011
 

When I was in high school, I happened upon a book at my local library called “Page-a-Minute Memory Book” by Harry Lorayne. Harry Lorayne is a mentalist – one of those magicians who would do mental tricks like asking you to pick a number and then figuring out what it is, or feats of “telepathy” where he would ask you a few simple questions and then from there be able to figure out everything about you (it’s called cold reading). One of Lorayne’s specialty was in amazing feats of memory – being introduced to 50 people and their life stories and after an hour recalling every single detail about them. Or being shown a shuffled deck of cards and being able to recall their order – backwards. For a teenager going to through school studying and trying to learn and memorize a million different things at once, this seemed like a godsend. I read the book, and learned some of the techniques, techniques that I’d later learn are called mnemonics. I applied some of them to my classes, some subjects better than others, and made some use of them. They held a lot of promise, and if I had pursued the matter further, I’d have gotten quite good at it. But, as with any other skill that isn’t diligently practiced continuously, I didn’t do that and the skill slipped away. I made some half-hearted effort to revive it in my college days, but I was struggling though engineering classes and problem sets and frankly couldn’t figure out a way to make them work for me.

Now, some 15-20 years later (!!) I’m about to have a son and perhaps by coincidence, perhaps by fate, I recently came across a book called “Moonwalking with Einstein” by Joshua Foer. I couldn’t put down, and I read the thing in three days. The author was a freelance science journalist who one day decided to cover the US National Memory Championships and by doing so, became exposed to the esoteric world of “mental athletes.” Not as glamorous as physical athletes, but nonetheless equally impressive (in my not-so-humble opinion). The book was essentially about how Foer went from journalist, to participatory chronicler, to actually winning the event and becoming the US Memory Champion – all in the span of one year. In the book he talks about his training, and how we underwent “deliberate practice” (a topic I intend to write about in a later post) to progressively improve and enhance his skillset. He writes about how we mastered the “method of loci,” the “major system,” amongst many others – all part of the mnemonist’s toolbox and arsenal. And, incidentally, all things that I had once learned once upon a time from Harry Lorayne. But more importantly, Foer provides a little history to what he calls the “art of memory.”

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